Wednesday, June 20, 2018


UNICEF CAFÉ kick-off highlighting the role of fathers in Timor-Leste
                                                                                                                       -Sophie Raynor, Consultant 

“I’m a bit shy to share my experiences,” Francez Suni tells the crowd, grinning nervously before a packed room at UNICEF Timor-Leste’s Father’s Day celebration, a morning coffee discussion themed super dads share and care. Speaking on a panel with four other fathers, Francez grinned as he searched for his next words.
“I’m a dad, yes, but am I a super dad? I’m just trying to do my best.”
The Information Director of GMN, a private media organisation, Francez is no stranger. But he hesitates briefly as he recalls his mother’s death when he was four, and his experience of being raised only by his father and how it affects his parenting today. He pauses for a moment, eyes to his feet, to collect himself.

Fathers posed for a photo session with Valerie Taton, UNICEF Representative, after the UNICEF CAFÉ: Super Dads Share and Care, organised to highlight fathers’ roles in child-rearing and caring. Photo: UNICEF Timor-Leste/2018/bsoares
“In the morning, I’m a laundry worker,” he continues, voice steady. “In the afternoon, I’m a driver. I clean their clothes and shoes and take them to school.” The smiling faces of Francez’s two children beam at the crowd from a family photo projected behind him. An attentive crowd applauds as Francez takes his seat, praising the hardworking father for his candour, and to recognise and celebrate the key role he plays in his children’s lives.


   Learning from each other
Super dads share and care is the first of a planned series of the UNICEF CAFÉ organised to highlight fathers’ roles in child-rearing and caring.  Facilitated by celebrity performer Anito Matos, fathers shared their experiences of parenthood, opening up a rarely-discussed topic in a traditionally patriarchal society that often relegates father’s child-rearing contribution to mere disciplinarian.
 Francez joined on a fathers’ panel discussion by Cesar da Costa Lourdes, a Chef at restaurant L’ Aubergine; Gil da Costa Naldo Rei, the President of the national television and radio network RTTL; Peter Roberts, Australia’s Ambassador to Timor-Leste; and Silviano Lopes, Director, National Directorate for Statistics.
 The Ambassadors to Timor-Leste from New Zealand, United States, Portugal (a.i) among other diplomats were also in attendance – as was Gil’s wife, who returned his stories with an easy grin, hands clasped over a broad pregnant belly.
 “When I told my wife and children I’d been selected to share my experiences a super dad, I asked them if they believed me,” Gil quipped to the crowd, grinning. “They said they did! But I’m suspicious.”



Francez Sun joined on a fathers’ panel discussion by Caesar da Costa Lourdes, a Chef at restaurant L’ Aubergine; Gil da Costa Naldo Rei, the President of the national television and radio network RTTL; Peter Roberts, Australia’s Ambassador to Timor-Leste; and Silviano Lopes, Director, National Directorate for Statistics. Photo: UNICEF Timor-Leste/2018/bsoares

He said he learned how to be a father from watching his own, who took great care to never hit the children, and jokes that he keeps an eye on his neighbour’s parenting, to make sure he isn’t being out-done.
 “I take my children to school, and people ask oh, where’s your wife?” he said. “I tell them she’s working, or at home. I may not be a super dad but I’m challenging myself to be a good one.”
 Following the fathers’ conversation, a short film highlighting a pioneering parenting programme, run jointly by UNICEF Timor-Leste and the Ministry of Social Solidarity was screened, offering the crowd a glimpse into the lives of rural fathers learning new knowledge about positive parenting, including discipline, nutrition, early stimulation, hygiene and education for their children. UNICEF also screened an animated film on early childhood development, highlighting the different roles parents can play at each stage of a child’s life, and emphasising the importance of proper nutrition, play and love.

 Fathers doing their best
 “When you have a children you think of a super hero,” Ambassador Peter told the crowd, before a projected image of his own two children, smiling with him under cheery sunhats. Pointing behind him, the Ambassador continued, “It’s important that fathers are involved in their children’s lives,” he said. “Doing small, everyday things, like playing soccer, or reading. It’s my belief that a father’s acts can be more important to a child than a mother’s.”
Among other panellists, Peter Roberts, Australia’s Ambassador to Timor-Leste, shared his account with the audiences in the UNICEF CAFÉ: Super Dads Share and Care. Photo: UNICEF Timor-Leste/2018/bsoares
In the open discussion participants reiterated the importance of father’s role in modelling respectful behaviours, and showing children how to treat their mothers and family members with respect. Domestic violence is a significant problem in Timor-Leste, so strong role models are important.
Participants reiterates the importance role of fathers in the during open discussion at the UNICEF Café: Super Dads Share and Care. Photo: UNICEF Timor-Leste/2018/bsoares
Children's voices were also heard, with a video screened showing children sharing their opinions of their fathers and the activities they like doing.
 In her remarks, UNICEF Timor-Leste Country Representative Valerie Taton shared candid memories of her own childhood. “I thank my own father,” she told the crowd. “Without him I wouldn’t be standing here today. I remember reading with him, going to the museum, and exciting my curiosity.”
 As the discussion wound down and Valerie called the event closed, listeners idled in the room, taking a second cup of coffee and chatting quietly together. Snatches of conversation drifted through; men talking about their children, people talking about their fathers; their families, long after the microphones were muted.




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